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Permalink Reply by The Panda on April 29, 2008 at 5:13pm

a7xfan? is this you who posted this? thats....odd. cheating on old valentino eh? wink.

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Permalink Reply by jamie stenson on April 29, 2008 at 5:50pm

I'm araid it is not going to be very easy to get her to admit that she lied. You see, her lies caused alot of trouble for me and if she were to admit that it was all lies it would likely cause her alot of problems. I doubt that it would be as bad as it was for me but I am sure she would like people to continue to believe the things she said because I am sure she really wants to ruin my life.

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Permalink Reply by jamie stenson on April 29, 2008 at 5:52pm

Also, it would or should probably incriminate her in some way and she surely does not want this because she has custody of our son.

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Permalink Reply by N on April 30, 2008 at 1:19am

...*thinks*.....One second....*turning thoughts into words that make sense*........Ok........Well, it's hard to give advice here.....I don't know exactly what the things she's spreading about you are, besides the fact that you're almost willing to hire a lawyer because they're that bad...Also, that you had to leave your hometown, so I imagine the things she's saying are terrible.........Hmm.....She also has custody, huh?.........Are these lies she's spreading one of the reasons she has custody, or are there other reasons?.........*thinks*....I'm sorry, I really don't think I can give you any advice on this one........*frowns*......If custody's what you want and you are willing to fight for it, I say hire the lawyer, but first you should make sure you will have the means to pay for it........Umm....I'm sorry, I feel like I'm just telling you things you already know.....Well........Think about what's the most important to you.......Then try and base your decisions on that......Sorry could not be more of help.......

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Permalink Reply by Katherine on April 30, 2008 at 2:05pm

For the convincing people part, you should try to talk sense into them, or they might tell other people lies. It really depends on the rumors spread and who you're talking to.

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Permalink Reply by jamie stenson on April 30, 2008 at 7:04pm

Yes, well I'm really not possitive if everyone believed the things that she said but some people did and of coarse there were a few people who did not like me to begin with and it is mainly these people who were the most redeady to believe her. Anyway, many of the things she said were really only embarrassing but the main accusation she made was that I beat her up. The truth is that she was quick to anger and that she was violent to me and finally to our son on the night I left, I have to admit to everyone now that I hit her once after she struck our son in the face and made him cry, What do you think? I mean she hit me many times that night alone and then she struck or son in the face so hard his feet came off the ground. I then pushed her onto our couch, then she kicked me in the midsection and I struck out at her in reflex and punched her in the stomach. I am not really sure how hard it was only that I know I did pull back some and didn't hit her with all my might. It just happened so fast and I never intended to do it at all.

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Permalink Reply by PseudoNinja on May 1, 2008 at 9:59am

Women’s foremost defence is to run to their allies, and they’ll usually agree with whatever she said regardless of fairness, they’ve chosen their side. Only convince them if they approach you, you don’t want to give wood to the rumour-mill. As i see it you have two courses of action;

Reconcile
Speaking as a single parent child, i would impress on you your responsibility to the child. I would suggest you be judged on your actions rather than what you say; continue to show an interest in the child and give her room to reconcile. You could always try counselling, it doesn’t usually work but it is cheaper.

Court
Going to court may mean you have to take care of the kid, or provide money to the mother for the kid (as well as pay legal expenses) if you lose. If you are serious then start collecting evidence of her… unfitness as a parent and foremost as a provider. I warn you, be fair, consider only what is best for the child, and don’t do anything brash.

I hope this helps.

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Permalink Reply by Katherine on May 4, 2008 at 5:59pm

I think America's court system is messed up in some ways and biased.

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Permalink Reply by N on May 4, 2008 at 6:05pm

.....That may be.....But what court system isn't?.......Ours is probably about as corrupt as everyone else's.......
.......Sometimes it seems there is no such thing as justice.......

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Permalink Reply by N on May 5, 2008 at 3:41pm

..hehe...well, I wasn't planning on taking it there but...okay......*laughs*.....

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Permalink Reply by N on May 5, 2008 at 5:20pm

...hehe.........I've given up on that a long time ago.....I just continue to live my life and ignore whatever society wants to do.....

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Permalink Reply by N on May 6, 2008 at 8:50pm

.....*frowns*...I'm sorry...I forgot......I just..........*shrugs*.....

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